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Things I’m tired of hearing about:
People having kids they can’t afford
People molesting their kids
People murdering their kids
People not investing enough time into their kids
People not being involved in their kids’ lives
People not believing in their kids
People neglecting their kids
People abusing (mentally, emotionally, and physically) their kids
People damaging their kids’ self-esteem and confidence
People who make their kids suffer during divorce (e.g., not allowing the kids to be shared between the parents) because of immaturity, pettiness, and stupidity
Most People Are Damaged/Have Baggage
Not many people will want to hear this, but people are damaged; most people have baggage in some form or another. And often, children inherit their parents’ baggage.
Am I saying you shouldn’t have kids? Yes. At least not until you deal with your sh*t to the point it won’t negatively affect your children.
There are plenty of abused and neglected children that come out great, but it sure would be nice if kids didn’t have to go through all of their parent’s bullsh*t in the first place.
One of my grandmothers had 6 kids. She abused, neglected, and essentially tried to destroy them all. Only two are flourishing; it takes a rare breed of person to survive horrendous parenting.
I’m thankful my grandmother brought my mother and close aunt into the world, but at times I wonder and ask myself: Why the heck did she keep having kids? Of course, lack of education, lack of self-control, lack of planning, and lack of selflessness can contribute, but some people are truly not meant and built to be parents.
17 Reasons You Shouldn’t Have Kids
1. Some people are not willing to develop patience for them.
2. Not everyone can afford to raise and invest in a kid.
3. Some people are not mentally, physically, or emotionally healthy enough to raise a kid of their own. Many people have plenty of underlying issues they have yet to face.
4. There are no cons to not having kids if they don’t align with your goals, lifestyle, and grand life plan.
5. You can give more focus and attention to your personal needs and wants.
6. Not having kids allows you to give more attention to your career and dreams if that is your priority.
7. Some people are happier without kids.
8. Having kids does not complete every person’s life.
9. Having kids does not add happiness to every person’s life.
10. Many people in the world will have kids; there is no shortage of kids.
11. Having kids will change your life for better or worse – depending on how you handle the responsibility.
12. Your only job in this world is to do what makes you happy (that doesn’t negatively impact others); having kids does not have to be one of these things.
13. Procreation and building a legacy aren’t mandatory.
14. Life without kids can often be better for a lot of people.
15. You are entitled to making your own decisions about whether to have kids or not. You don’t have to give your parents grandkids.
16. Kids do not equal happiness for everyone, and this is okay.
17. Not having kids equals more freedom for many people.
Before You Have Kids, Remember These Things
You’re signing up for a lifetime of responsibility; you can’t quit on your kid.
It takes massive resources to raise a kid and invest in their lives.
Parenting doesn’t stop after age 18.
You will give up a big part of your life for parenting; so, be okay with giving, loving, forgiving, and accepting your offspring unconditionally
Strict Parenting Taught Me NOT To Have Boundaries
It was not okay for me to have my own identity.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.