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1 Walk a little faster

People always complained about me walking fast, but it was a natural occurrence.

When I came to find out that walking a bit faster than the average pace was a sign of confidence, I felt a whole lot better about my “hurried habit”.

Why would I give it up now?

On top of walking a bit faster than average, walk with your head up, shoulders up, and a strong gaze. Know where you’re going at all times.

People will respect this characteristic.

2. Maintain eye contact.

There will be people you come across that you may not want to look in the eyes. I get it.

But try to maintain eye contact with people as much as possible. This shows that you see them as a human being, are not putting them above you, and value yourself.

If you still don’t feel comfortable holding eye contact with someone, look elsewhere on their face close to their eyes.

Never allow others to make you feel small, insecure, or unworthy.

3. Say “No.”

Saying “yes” more often is a trend, but there is also a time when you need to say “no” because saying “yes” conflicts with your values, boundaries, and beliefs.

Don’t allow people to treat you like garbage.

If something doesn’t feel right, then say “no”.

If someone offers you something and it doesn’t feel right, say “no.”

Get comfortable saying “no” to protect your sanity, peace, body, mind, spirit, soul, and time.

The more you say “no” to the wrong things, the more you can say “yes” to the right things.

There will be times in your life when you don’t know whether you should say “no” or “yes.” Pay attention to your body language; the body always knows what you really want.

Is your body leaning in or out?

4. Let people walk away

Don’t chase friendships or relationships.

If someone is meant to be in your life, they will be. Don’t force them to stay, though.

Allow people to move freely in and out of your life.

You don’t have to be desperate.

There are billions of people ready and willing to enjoy your soul.

Letting someone walk out of your life and being okay with it is a sign of confidence.

Always remember that when one door closes, another one will open; this is accurate 100% of the time.

5. Love yourself

We are all imperfectly perfect.

There is so much good each of us has to offer.

Find and own your brilliance.

Love, forgive, accept, and acknowledge yourself.

You are worthy of love.

See yourself so others can see you.

If we all loved ourselves a little bit more, we would tolerate less bullshit, hold ourselves more accountable for our actions, stop sabotaging opportunities, and go for more opportunities.

Loving yourself is the foundation of confidence. The more you genuinely love and appreciate yourself (humbly), the more confidence you will project.

This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.