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But it’s never too late to implement the fences that you need to thrive
People who grew up learning about boundaries are also the most respectful people when you implement your boundaries with them. They don’t retaliate. They respect you. They appreciate your clear communication, and life goes on.
The best time to learn about boundaries is when you’re a child. It’s easier to absorb and make it a habit. The older you become, the harder it becomes to implement boundaries because diminishing your wants, needs, and value becomes an ingrained habit.
Parents, it is your responsibility to help your kids learn boundaries. But the truth is, most parents don’t have healthy boundaries themselves. If you don’t have them, you’re teaching your kids not to have them.
As ludicrous as it feels and sounds not to be able to implement boundaries, adults struggle significantly with boundaries, which is why so many people find themselves in situations they never imagine.
How To Implement Boundaries As An Adult
1. Increase your self-worth, self-value, self-confidence, and self-esteem
The more you value yourself, the easier it will be to communicate to others they need to do the same. If they don’t, they can happily exit your life, and you’re okay with it.
Two books I recommend to people who need help in this area are:
The Magic of Thinking Big
See You At The Top
2. Start small.
The best people to practice your boundaries are those who respect and love you unconditionally.
Practice on the people who implement healthy boundaries and don’t respond negatively or retaliate when others enforce their boundaries.
3. Complete self-analysis.
As you build your self-worth, self-value, self-confidence, and self-esteem, think about why you feel uncomfortable asking others what you need and want from them.
Why do you feel you’re not worth it?
Why do some people feel bad when people mess up their orders? Instead of communicating the error and asking them to fix it, they accept it because they don’t want to cause too much trouble.
What makes people ask people to change their order and others to accept it?
Self-worth and boundaries.
4. Get uncomfortable.
As you implement boundaries, people will retail and treat you differently because of your changes. Some people prefer the old you, the less healthy version.
These people aren’t your real people, or they need to grow.
Don’t take it personally. Stay on track, remember to value yourself, and continue practicing the implementation of boundaries to experience a happier and more satisfying life.
5. Avoid becoming passive-aggressive by implementing boundaries.
People who don’t implement boundaries eventually burn out and experience bitterness and anger because their voices are never heard and their needs are never met.
That sh*t gets old after a while. Instead of being passive-aggressive, be proactive and communicate your boundaries.
If kids can do it, so can you.
Strict Parenting Taught Me NOT To Have Boundaries
It was not okay for me to have my
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