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Save Yourself; Don’t Wait On Someone To Care For You Financially
Stop giving up your power
Laziness Is The New Full-Time Gig
People have no limits to what they will do to gain access to someone that will support them financially.
I’m FLABBERGASTED when I hear stories like the ones I share in the next section, and it’s challenging to digest them because I’m so keen on maintaining my financial independence.
What is attractive about being financially dependent on someone?
Sure, allowing someone else to be the breadwinner might be easier, but at what cost to your dignity and independence?
You’ll never be the one pulling the strings or making the decisions. The person who financially supports you can dispose of you and your access to them anytime.
But the gold-digging pandemic persists; people are looking for the easy way out.
According to Lottery USA, the odds of winning the Mega Millions jackpot are 1 in 302.6 million, while the odds of winning the Powerball jackpot are 1 in 292.2 million.
Why do you think so many people consistently play the lottery, knowing the chances of winning are nearly nonexistent?
Because they know that if they win, they believe they can do anything they want and never have to work another day.
Funny how it often works out for lottery winners; many end up broke again buying lottery tickets.
People Don’t Want To Work Anymore
Example 1
A woman took a hike to the hospital after attempting to manually impregnate herself with the remnants of a used condom by her and the wealthy artist Drake.
He put hot sauce in a condom to “kill” his sperm, ensuring no kids would get created from the encounter.
Unfortunately, she wasn’t aware of the hot sauce mixture in the condom.
Example 2
After getting kicked out by his partner, it still took one man a couple of years to officially leave the house for which he paid zero bills.
Example 3
A guy paid no bills while living with his wealthy girlfriend; eventually, he left the woman.
Example 4
Another woman got fired from her job. Instead of applying for another job, she forced a move-in with her boyfriend and didn’t look for a new job.
Example 5
One man married an older woman who took excellent care of him. Then, he ghosted her.
Each example has one consistent variable; every example involves someone not financially independent.
Create Financial Independence For YOU
It’s hard for many people to work a regular job or build a business because their work ethic has plummeted.
And you know what? It is hard, and we don’t always feel like working! But the rewards are much more significant than looking for a way out through someone else.
With all of the social media, reality tv, and influencer lifestyles on display 24/7, many people desire to skip all the complex parts it takes. They want success, access, and financial freedom instantaneously.
Society has turned into toddlers who can’t delay gratification for a minute. We need success, money, fame, and the perfect image now, without being willing to put in any effort.
You can’t teach discipline, but you can learn to be open to and cultivate it.
In the day and age where the average consumer has tens to hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt, we are victims of not delaying our gratification.
But this doesn’t mean we must stay this way.
We can change.
Nothing is more attractive and empowering than someone who has their financial sh*t together and has no desire to depend on someone financially.
A financially independent person consists of these characteristics:
They live below their means.
They always have their own money.
They have independent income sources.
They have and can afford their car (if needed).
They save for their future (retirement) consistently.
They have their stuff and don’t need others to buy things for them.
They have their place and can afford the expenses that come with it.
Your financial independence is one of your superpowers.
It’s okay for others to provide for you if you have your sh*t. Many are tangled up in relationships because they can’t financially care for themselves, which means their options are limited and ultimately decided by the moneymaker. I want to be the puppet master for my finances and pull my strings.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.