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But my hair is rarely straight
Out of all the pictures this guy could have shown his mom, he showed the one of me with straight hair.
What’s Wrong W/ Him Showing My Straight Hair
Some might consider my best look to be when I have straight hair. I’ve even had close people praise my appearance when my hair was straightened more so than when it wasn’t.
I thought to myself, “Well damn. What about my natural hair, asshole?”
I get it. Straight hair frequently appears more attractive and is also a Eurocentric characteristic, which is usually more valued in our society.
But natural hair is also beautiful.
And I can appreciate non-colored people who can also appreciate natural hair and natural characteristics that people of color have.
We aren’t supposed to look like European people and never will.
I don’t think his intention was malicious, but it showed a straight-hair bias.
Despite his preference and other partners’ (of all colors) preference for my straight hair, I never deviated from my natural patterns.
Praise Your Natural Hair
Natural hair has always been around, but it’s also not the most praised hairstyle amongst people of color.
Some of you have hidden your natural tresses in work or corporate settings to assimilate.
Why do you think people of color feel the need to hide their natural hair in corporate settings when no one has directly told us them to do so?
Other Reasons Women Wear Their Hair Straight
Usually, women of color don’t know how to properly care for and manage their hair, leading them to opt for wigs, sew-ins, and other less natural hairstyles that don’t accentuate their natural tresses.
Women of color have been straightening their hair and assimilating to Eurocentric standards for some time, and frequently to their detriment (e.g., hair thinning, balding, and burns).
Nothing in this world can make me hate, dislike, or change my preference for my natural hair pattern.
I wore my hair in braids, twists, and locs all my life. But it wasn’t until I locked my hair that I truly fell in love.
My straight hair is beautiful. I love it, but I also rarely wear it straight because it doesn’t match my lifestyle, which is active.
I also never found using regular heat on my hair a healthy practice.
Furthermore, I don’t see the point in changing my appearance to look like someone else.
My hair is naturally curly. I straightened my hair a few times, and I was happy with that.
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