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Approach dating and relationships with logic. ELIMINATE emotion.
One of the best pieces of advice I ever got from my mother is the title of this article.
Though I have dated a few people below my standards, it was never a long-term thing.
Moreover, I stayed committed to personal development through all my situations, which shielded me from de-elevating who I was.
I noted a previous partner who told me they felt they were holding me back. I didn’t always understand what they meant until everything in my life improved by 1,000% after they exited my life. And my life was already good.
This shows how keeping certain people around can drain us and stifle our progress. If you can progress faster, opt for that route.
As time progresses, I become more selective of who and who I will not allow in my life on an intimate level. I’m not desperate, and neither should you be. Never fear being alone. Fall in love with yourself so much that you become so selective that you no longer find yourself in unhealthy and toxic situations.
If someone doesn’t meet your standards, cut them off. The earlier, the better. The longer you keep them around, the stronger the emotional bond becomes, which makes it harder for you to separate.
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