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Will you obliterate your excuses?
Why did you stop traveling?
Because I have so many dogs and a full-time job.
^^ This used to be the excuse I told myself until I realized I was just stuck in a comfort zone.
There wasn’t a legitimate reason I stopped traveling (one of my favorite things) for years; I was simply going along with a dumbass excuse I kept telling myself and overcomplicating my very simple life.
Now I work more than ever and travel more than I ever.
My responsibilities have significantly increased, but it has proven not to be a barrier as I once thought it was.
What Was His Excuse?
Why did you stop traveling?
Because I traveled a lot in my 20s and 30s, I want to prioritize some other things first.
Where did you travel in your 20s and 30s?
The United States.
Hmmmm…that doesn’t give you exposure to international cultures like you say you desire to do. The places you’ve listed that you want to travel to are not in the US.
You’re not chained to a desk, you don’t have any kids, and no other significant obligations are holding you down; why don’t you finally cross off some of the places on your list? You can literally do everything you’re doing every day overseas.
Work will always be there; if you work remotely, you can’t use it as an excuse not to travel.
Dissect Your Excuses
It’s so easy to break apart excuses.
After examining them, you realize how 99.9% of your excuses are invalid.
If you genuinely want something, you make it happen.
If you genuinely have a desire, you make it happen.
If you don’t want something to happen, you do nothing about it.
Once I realized that my excuses were complete bullshit, I made it happen.
But sometimes, we’re lying to ourselves. We don’t really want what we say we want….
Are You Lying To Yourself?
Most people are drifters or allow life to happen to them by default.
A friend of mine constantly complained about being stuck in an unhappy marriage, but he won’t get a divorce because of the benefits shared between him and his wife; furthermore, his wife needs a place to stay.
Instead of allowing her to learn how to take care of herself, he has made it his responsibility to care for her.
Their relationship is merely a business transaction. Many desirable and successful women cross his path, but they don’t want to invest further because he won’t get a divorce and let his wife get her own place.
He wants to be in a happy relationship, but if you examine his actions, he really wants comfort, which he is receiving.
Though he tries to rationalize his behavior as altruistic, he’s only fooling himself.
Everyone else sees that they’re merely using each other and ultimately desire to stay together.
Excuses go both ways. Sometimes our excuses are valid. Other times our excuses are cover-ups because we can’t accept that we’re addicted to our comfortable situations.
What Do You Desire For Your Life?
Most of the time, we know the answer to this and what we need to do to obtain it. The question is, do you really want to obtain it?
Most of the time, we’re lying to ourselves and don’t want it as bad as we think because if we did, we’d put the work in.
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