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Something that will shape the rest of your life
Everyone struggles with appreciating themselves at some point. It’s something we’ve learned to stop doing more of because our minds and lifestyles are built off of so much shame, neglect, regret, and dislike for ourselves, which is why we’re always aiming to be something or somewhere we’re not at currently.
Appreciating ourselves is serious business – for doing this one thing can shape the rest of your life when it comes to boundaries, your relationships, your decisions, your career, and your well-being.
If we appreciate ourselves, we will appreciate others, which means our relationships will improve.
If we appreciate ourselves, we will invest in our holistic well-being and not neglect our mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial health.
If we appreciate ourselves, we will not allow others to abuse us by overriding our boundaries because we respect and appreciate our values.
If we appreciate ourselves, we will appreciate how we think when making decisions.
If we appreciate ourselves, we will not allow work to diminish our well-being, self-worth, self-respect, and the passions we enjoy outside of our primary career.
Appreciating ourselves has so much upside. So my question to you is: Are you taking the time to appreciate yourself?
We are the greatest thing that will ever happen to us. Believe it. It makes life much easier. (Codependent No More)
We may have walked through much of our life apologizing for ourselves either directly or indirectly – feeling less valuable than others, believing that they know better than we do, and believing that somehow others are meant to be here and we are not.
We have a right to be here.
We have a right to be ourselves.
We are here. There is purpose, a reason, and an intention for our life. We do not have to apologize for being here or being who we are.
We are good enough, and deserving. Others do not have our magic. We have our magic. It is in us.
it doesn’t matter what we’ve done in our past. We all have a past, women with mistakes, successes, and learning experiences. We have a right to our past. It is ours. It has worked to shape and form us. As we progress on this journey, we shall see how each of our experiences will be turned around and used for good.
We have already spent too much time being ashamed, being apologetic, and doubting the beauty of ourselves. Be done with it. let it go. It is an unnecessary burden. Others have rights, but so do we. We are neither less than nor more than. We are equal. We are who we are. That is who were created and intended to be.
That, my friend, is a wonderful gift.
Source: The Language of Letting Go, Melody Beattie
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