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African-American hair is still quite misunderstood
Her hair is voluminous with a textured 3a-4a, and my hair is locced and a textured 4c.
I will briefly break down what type 4 hair is for those unfamiliar with the different hair types.
The image above describes the different hair types in detail. Usually (not always), type 3 & 4 hair comes in people of color or with people with some sort of color in their genes.
4a, 4b, and 4c are the different classifications for type 4 hair. Looking at this chart, I now suspect the woman the white guy compared my hair to was probably in class 3a – 3c.
What does this mean? The woman with type 3a – 4a hair had loose curls. On the other hand, my hair is tight and kinky; the coils are tight and shrink up to 80% or more of the actual length. It could take decades to get my actual hair to be down my back without stretching it out with heat or chemicals because my shrinkage is extreme.
Misunderstanding African-American Hair
There are still many misunderstandings about African-American hair.
“Can I Touch Your Hair?”
I’m sure some of you have been asked the infamous question: “Can I touch your hair?” by someone outside of your race. I don’t mind the question, but I know many people do.
A more critical thought to ponder is the motive behind the question. Is it because they’re genuinely interested in our hair and appreciate the complexity and uniqueness of it, or because they find our hair type “odd.”
The Consequences Of White-Washing Our Hair
Many African-Americans wear their hair in ways that are natural for Caucasian people, which could, at times, confuse people into believing that our hair can be manipulated in whichever direction we want to present it. However, this is untrue. Though African-American hair is some of the most versatile hair to have, it still has its limit. Furthermore, we can’t deny that our natural hair will often never naturally be anything less than curly.
Laws Protecting Black Hair
Thankfully, there are laws in place that now “protect” African-Americans, so we can wear our hair how we desire it in the workplace, but it’s sad that we had to have a law put in place.
However, now more than ever, I am seeing more African-Americans wear their hair in natural styles, which is progress.
Interracial Relationships Are Better When Both Parties Are Aware
Dating people outside your race is an educational experience, and I’ve always enjoyed it. But it doesn’t come with its quirks – especially when the other party is ignorant on matters concerning African-American culture.
It’s a breath of fresh air when both parties in an interracial relationship take the time to understand the culture behind the person; these cognizant couples can experience the most fulfilling relationships.
No. I can’t make my hair look like a person with a completely different background. Unless I damage my hair, my hair will always be 4c. And I’m grateful to say that I love my hair.
Sister locs saved the day
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