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Rock The F*cking Boat: The Only Thing You Have To Lose Is Them
You want to keep things extra “smooth” or in the “perfect” zone.
You might even want to appear calm or as if you don’t care too much by avoiding specific conversations and questions. But if you have any ounce of intentionalism with you, there will be questions and conversations you desire to explore with your dating partner.
Not asking someone the questions burning within your soul is frequently caused by fear and anxiety.
Maybe you’re scared to lose out on a new dating opportunity, or you “really” like the person and don’t want them to view you differently.
But if you really like the person, don’t you want them to like you back equally or more?
Well, of course, you do.
However, you can’t determine how they genuinely feel about you if you tip-toe around essential questions or skip around critical conversations that help you learn who they are.
My Experience Not Rocking The Boat
I’m naturally curious, but sometimes I held back my questions because I didn’t want to “rock the boat.” I didn’t want to appear whatever I felt I would appear as by asking the question.
I was judging myself before even getting the question out. Furthermore, anyone I felt I couldn’t be my total inquisitive self with and ask my known-to-be-crazy questions to was never worth my time in the first place. And this has proved true in every instance.
Who I am now is bold. I will ask critical questions and bring up critical conversations; I no longer care what others think, nor am I tied to outcomes.
If a person decides to walk, please do. If a person decides to get offended, please do. If a person decides not to respond, please don’t. I love it when people show me who they are because it helps me determine whether they’re worth my time sooner than later.
The healthiest relationships are the ones with clear and open communication. Most of us know this, yet, we continue failing at healthy communication.
Moreover, we fail to reveal our true selves. We’re so caught up in showing our representative selves to people we never give others a chance to know who we genuinely are, which can only lead to superficial relationships.
If You Value Yourself & Your Time, You’ll Ask The Questions
There is a time and place for everything. Sometimes it does not make sense to ask specific questions or have certain conversations so early on, but as the time arises (you’ll know when because your intuition will reveal it to you), execute and ask the question or initiate the conversation you might feel uncomfortable with.
People with high self-worth, self-value, high confidence, and high self-esteem take risks and aren’t afraid to rock the boat. They’re unafraid for people to walk out on them. They’re weary of developing unhealthy attachments with people they barely know or who don’t care to learn them. Furthermore, they’re intentional and never apologize for it.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.