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One step is all you need to take
Once you face a fear, it no longer has power over you. After recently facing two fears, I observed a newfound confidence within myself. Not only was I ready to face that fear again, but I was also ready to face fears that were ten times as big.
The hardest part of eradicating fear is facing it. If you don’t face the fear, it will continue to conquer you.
Career
If you’re scared to apply to a company, force yourself to apply. Then, apply somewhere else you believe you can’t get an interview, and keep applying to companies you feel are out of reach.
Dating
If you’re scared to go on a date, enhance your confidence as healthy as possible (e.g., look and feel your best), and make yourself go on a date. Be sure it’s someone you’re genuinely interested in; this always makes it easier.
Travel
If you’re scared to travel to certain places (that are reasonably safe), start somewhere around the area, then go for it. If you’re scared to travel out of the country, start at the edges or other countries within your continent, then leap. Take some good people with you to make you feel more safe.
Boundaries
If you’re scared to say “no” to someone that continues running through your boundaries, start by voicing “no” to people who do respect your boundaries. Then graduate to saying “no” to little things from the person you struggle to say “no” to; then take a jump and start saying “no” to the things that bother you most.
Start Small
It’s all about integral progress. Be less fearful of potentialities and things that can go wrong and focus more on what can go right.
Fear Is Dangerous
The more you allow fear to run rampant in your life, the less control of life you’ll maintain.
Fear is so powerful that it can completely alter your life experience.
For years, I allowed fear to send me into an introverted and almost no-travel existence, which was not who I was – in any capacity.
Once I faced the fear and exited some unhealthy circumstances, I could experience my natural cadence of self again.
Fear will keep you in toxic situations, cause you to settle, and place you in unhealthy circumstances.
Someone told me I would end up alone because I was eccentric.
Instead of allowing their words to affect me, I wished them well and continued surrounding myself with healthy people who appreciated my uniqueness. I refuse to settle for people who try to change who I am or are threatened by it.
Shortly after, I realized that person was projecting their fears onto me.
I am not alone, but I am also not scared to be alone because I appreciate my company. They, on the other hand, struggle with being with themselves.
Be Careful Of Allowing Others To Project Their Fears Onto You
As I was on my way to the airport, someone already there told me I better hurry, or I might miss my flight because the lines were significantly longer than usual.
Instead of rushing and getting stressed out, I remained calm. Ultimately, I was serendipitously escorted to the front of the security line. I knew this happened because I remained positive and peaceful despite the fear that person tried to throw at me.
Another person close to me constantly finds negativity in people, places, and their surroundings/experiences. They have a negative perspective on every aspect of life. I filter them out quite aggressively and engage in as little conversation with them as possible.
If you’re negative and fearful, I’m unwilling to allow myself to become infected by it. You can keep that shit to yourself.
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