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Let It TF Go
Cyndie Spiegel: Disentangle yourself from the past to embrace the future. Don’t reside in your childhood, regardless of how wonderful or imperfect it was. Move forward with all of the grace and acceptance you can muster. Let go. Love boldly. Grow. Learn. Then, spread your wings and sour.
Recently, I wrote the article called “The Language of Letting Go: Embrace And Value Your Past: Your past is an invaluable compass to create a better future.” We often hear words like: embrace your past, let go of your past, move forward, live in the present moment, stop living out of this moment, or don’t look back.
The problem is that these words are easier said than done. But if we did apply these words, our lives would be so much easier to put up with.
Most Of Our Pasts Are Sh*tty Or Average
Let’s face it, most of us have average, regretful, or sh*tty pasts. Few people can honestly say they had perfect childhoods. The world is broken, which means brokenness travels through generations. However, this doesn’t mean we need to allow this brokenness to overtake our present and future.
We don’t need to push away and deny our pasts. We only need to disentangle and learn from our pasts so that we can move forward. Our pasts are compasses that guide and help us navigate successfully through life. The people, experiences, choices, and mistakes we have accumulated are all a part of what makes us who we are. Our pasts don’t have to define us, but they can enlighten us to be better versions of ourselves.
Questions We Should Be Asking Ourselves
What part of your past do you need to disentangle? What people from your past do you need to let go of? What brokenness do you need to relinquish? What thought patterns do you need to eradicate? What imperfections do you need to embrace? What mistakes do you need to forgive yourself for making? What hurts do you need to mend? Who do you need to forgive? What bitterness are you holding onto?
All of your responses to these questions are invaluable and will provide you the opportunity to grow more into the person the universe meant for you to be.
Move Forward Like Time
Once you accept your past, you can move forward so you can walk into your purpose. You can’t live out your destiny if you’re still living out your past destiny. Time keeps moving forward, which means you need to do the same.
I know the past hurts at times; if you can’t seem to get out of it, act as if you are. Sometimes, we need to start acting before it becomes our truth – eventually, we won’t be acting anymore. We will finally be living in the present moment. We will finally be able to be grateful for our pasts because they made us who we are today, and from this point forward, we decide who we will be.
Things I’ve Had To Let Go Personally
People
Mistakes
Jobs
Opportunities
Love
Hopes
Dreams
But, every time I’ve had to let go of something or someone, a better replacement comes along. It can happen for you, too.
Sometimes I notice I get inundated with my past when I lose sight of my purpose. When this happens, thought spirals can quickly spin out of control for me.
What reels me back is remembering my purpose, thinking of my goals, and focusing on my processes and marginal improvements.
Nostalgia can also be dangerous, so only look back when it’s absolutely necessary.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.