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Your opinions of yourself are what matter most
Without realizing it, others’ truths about us can evolve into personal truths we believe about ourselves. We forget that our truths alone are what should matter most.
Someone recently came to me wondering what others were thinking about him. We do this a lot, don’t we? We wonder what people are thinking about us. And if we’re not conscientious, we start to remember the negative words others have said about us and allow them to infiltrate and influence our self-value, self-esteem, well-being, and opinion of ourselves.
If we’re not careful, it’s easy for others to put their ideas and intentions into our minds, to cast their spells on us.
You aren’t very creative. Your heart isn’t open. You’re really not healthy. You need me to succeed. You don’t deserve success. In fact, you don’t deserve…
It’s easy to take in others’ truths about us as our own, letting their ideas about us control our lives and our beliefs.
What are the words others have spoken to you, the spells they’ve cast on you and your life? What phrases are echoing in your mind, and who do they belong to? Listen to what you hear, and if they are not yours, get them out.
– Melody Beattie
Don’t allow people to put their spells on you. Shield yourself from others’ negative energy, opinions, and thoughts they have about you, or it might poison your life and how you feel about yourself – ultimately leading to destructive thinking patterns, behaviors, and choices.
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