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Asking yourself the hard questions to know what changes are necessary to transform your future
Watching ourselves, neutrally observing ourselves without judgment or reproach, can be a powerful tool for change. If you’ve tried and tried to change, but it hasn’t worked, then watch yourself. Watch what you say, what you think, how you feel, how you act, how you react. Don’t try to stop yourself. Don’t judge. Just observe. Do it as long as you need to, although it may not take long.
Melody Beattie
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Is This You?
I can’t sleep. I keep experiencing headaches, stomachaches, and other bodily aches. I’m stressed all the time. I don’t feel any happiness anymore. I’m not sure why I stopped my relationship and communication with them. I stopped working on goals I’m passionate about, but I’m not sure why. Every time I open up my work laptop or visit the office, I feel sick to my stomach, and my energy dissipates. I don’t love my partner or spouse anymore. I keep overeating. I’m always sick. My life isn’t something I enjoy anymore.
Some of you may not even realize this is you because you are so disconnected from your soul, body, mind, heart, and spirit. Essentially, you have become numb, which has blinded you to your current state of being.
The Power of Self Observation
Do you fall into any of the categories above? If so, have you taken the time to pause and question why you might be feeling this way? Often the truth of our feelings lies deep within us, but it’s not always accessible because we don’t take enough time to pause, slow down, and reflect.
Self-observation is a way for us to grab ahold of the truth missing from our lives that will guide us into making an effective change and decision for our future.
My Daily Habit
I make it a habit to observe myself throughout the day; it’s like watching a movie.
Through consistent self-observation, I maintain a deep sense of self-awareness that causes me to be extra sensitive to changes in my emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well-being.
I’ve continually asked myself the hard questions throughout my life to understand better what changes I need to make in my life:
Is this situation working for me?
Is this relationship working for me?
Is this job working for me?
Is my current state of health working for me?
Is this mindset working for me?
Is this lifestyle working for me?
Is this place still working for me?
Is this habit still working for me?
What questions do you need to ask yourself? What changes do you need to make from your responses to these questions?
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