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Stop seeking financial independence from someone else and get your OWN bag
Many women have created financial independence for themselves, which is a phenomenal feat. But there are still many women (and men) who are financially dependent on their partners to provide for them.
Ultimately, if you decide to partner up, you want to choose someone that aligns with your financial values, or else you’re headed down a troublesome road.
Personal finance is one of the most critical conversations to have with your current or future partner. Don’t avoid this subject. And the sooner you can talk about money, the better.
How’s Your Money Looking, Though?
But there’s something else we should discuss.
Do you have your own financial sh*t together?
Because if you don’t, you should consider getting your financial situation together before deciding to partner up.
When you pair with someone else, you’re also pairing up financially. If you can avoid it, don’t bring an unhealthy financial situation into a new relationship; that’s simply unnecessary stress and strain.
And if the person you’re partnering up with also has unhealthy finances, you both should consider fixing your money before intermingling your finances.
Financial stress is not fun business for a relationship.
The Peril of Financially Dependent Women
There will always be a group of people who want their partner to provide everything for them without having any of their own financial means – even if they find this (as many do), it sets you up for potential failure in the case their life source finds a way to pull the plug.
Four cringe-worthy statements I’ve consistently heard from women when it comes to money include the following:
He’s established.
I need his income.
He can provide for me.
He can provide the type of life I want.
I will never understand the philosophy of waiting for someone else to provide when you can provide for yourself and create options now.
Traits of A Financially Independent Woman
A financially independent woman does not rely on her partner to provide for her financial needs. Instead, she ensures she always has her own means and can provide for herself.
She never subjects herself to financially dependent relationships because she has her financial sh*t together. She can also avoid unhealthy relationships that she might otherwise be involved in because of financial need.
5 Traits
She lives below her means.
She consistently invests her money.
She buys herself what she wants when she wants.
She invests in her financial education and learns about money on her own time and dime.
She can live independently, without the help of another person, and can provide for herself.
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This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.