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What is your self-value?
But after I learned that how I treat people is me communicating how I treat myself, I had to change.
When we love ourselves, we love others.
We can’t control how people interact with us, but we can control if we stick around for their unhealthy behaviors towards us.
Often, we stick around because we have low self-esteem, low self-worth, low self-belief, low confidence, low self-regard, and no boundaries. We will come across people who will notice these traits and take advantage of them.
When we receive love and acceptance, we often become attached to it because it feels good. But love and acceptance should never bring constant pain. If you have found yourself in a situation with someone who is constantly hurting you: emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually, you’re going to have to decide to make a change.
Make the change because you love yourself.
Attachment is dangerous. Attachment can lead us to surround ourselves with people who will ultimately lead to our destruction.
How To Remove Yourself From Unhealthy Situations
If you have found yourself in any relationship with someone who treats you poorly, ask yourself, why am I still here?
Sometimes, we stay because we love them and want to show them another way of who they could be.
But other times, we stay because we don’t think we deserve anything better.
Learn to recognize the difference.
10 Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
If you are unfamiliar with what is not considered normal and healthy in a relationship (e.g., romantic, platonic, familial, or professional), see some of the patterns below:
Your feelings and emotions are consistently disregarded.
You’re often cut off when you’re speaking.
What you desire is often never considered.
Things revolve around the other party’s feelings, thoughts, and desires.
You are belittled.
You are not cherished, valued, or shown consistent actions of love.
Actions and words are not aligned.
You often feel emotionally, mentally, physically, or spiritually drained.
Your personal growth has slowed down.
You often envy other people’s relationships because they are more normalized and loving than yours.
The relationship adds more negative energy than positive energy to your life.
You Might Be Dealing With A Narcissist
People with issues treating others kindly and with respect might fall into the narcissistic group.
Learn how to spot their behaviors to protect your peace of mind and ensure you avoid falling into these patterns.
You either are one, or you know someone close to you that is one
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.