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Don’t set yourself up for a financial disaster
Realistically, how often does this work out?
Sometimes it does, but sometimes it doesn’t.
If you’re currently in a relationship and you don’t have an income of your own or enough income to support yourself financially, you should not feel comfortable.
You could be stripped of your economic privilege at any point because “the shared finances” are not actually your own.
That’s what happens to the money that isn’t officially yours; it can leave your life without notice because it’s someone else’s.
Good relationships don’t always end up how you thought.
Not everyone’s situation ends badly, but sometimes the end of the situation means the end of your access to money you thought you would have forever.
Two friends of mine got kicked out of their homes and didn’t have anywhere to go. They also didn’t have their own money.
One learned their lesson and created financial stability for themselves.
The other never learned their lesson and still rely on people to care for them.
What happens when they run out of people to care for them financially? I think you can guess.
Why Do People Find Comfort In Financial Security?
The same reason you find comfort in having a full-time job is the same reason people find financial security in relationships.
It feels stable, safe, reliable, and like it will never end, but it does.
Some people play the game and find someone else to take care of them before their financial situation evaporates, but not everyone thinks so far ahead.
And what kind of life is that? Seeking other people to always pick up the reigns to support you financially.
I Used To Be Financially Dependent
It sucked to be financially dependent on others, and my goal is never to experience that again.
After I tasted financial independence, I didn’t want to go backward and hand my freedom over to someone again.
I was relentless in creating my way, financial independence, and stability.
If you are in a financially dependent situation, you can shift your situation as well.
All you need to do is take action:
Obtain or create a stable income source.
Next, create two more income streams so you always have three options.
Start saving and investing if you aren’t already.
Maintain your own bank account.
Educate yourself on finances, so you know how to manage money.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.