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I’m finally going to write about the stuff people don’t want to see
I’m young.
I’m female.
And I write about topics that people may not expect a black female to write about, such as personal finance and careers in technology.
I also write about personal development (i.e., health, affirmations, motivation, goals, productivity, and relationships).
Other less popular topics include black-on-black experiences and radical health articles (more on this later).
Now that I think about it, I suppose much of the stuff I write about has a radical undertone.
My interest in finance found me as a kid; it was a natural attraction. Tech was a serendipitous occurrence that I’m grateful to share with others.
Health was an intimate and personal experience that followed me into adulthood (more on this later).
People Think My Writing Sucks
Since I was in elementary school, I’ve been passionate about writing.
My fifth-grade white teacher told my parents I couldn’t write for shit.
Thankfully my parents never told me the words my teacher said about my writing until much later in life.
The funny thing is that the same year my teacher said my writing was shitty was the same year my parents encouraged me to write and publish my first book at 11 years old, and I did. It was a book on health. I published my second book on personal development and finance a year later.
[People liked the personal development book more, and so did I.]
I’m not a writing expert, and I still have a hell of a long way to go, which is why I write so much. The best way to improve is through practice – writing.
People Get Offended By My Writing
A dating partner constantly got offended by my writing, so I started writing under a pseudonym.
Some colleagues got offended and threatened by my writing even though it was not about them and reported me to HR (nothing came of it).
Here on Medium, I’ve received comments that have told me my writing style is offensive, assaulting, and abrasive.
Well, if you couldn’t already tell from my other articles, I can be an abrasive person…
Everyone in my family knows that Destiny will give it to you straight with no bullshit icing added on top.
I don’t write to make friends and make people feel better about themselves (unless I’m writing affirmations).
I write to make people face the truth, so they can implement change and elevate their lives and those around them.
Whenever I get offended by someone’s words, I ask myself what it is within me that finds them offensive.
Is there any truth to it?
Or are they just plain offensive?
Often it’s me wanting to avoid the truth.
A Topic People Frequently Get Offended By: Health
One of my favorite topics to write about is health, fitness, weight loss, and obesity because I grew up around many unhealthy people of color.
I was so passionate about the subject that it affected my relationship with food for a while until after I graduated college and started living on my own; finally, I was released from the shackles of others’ relationships with food.
Food was never my issue; it was always theirs.
Not only have I stayed physically active and maintained the healthiest lifestyle out of many of my family members, but I decided to make it one of my primary missions to inspire others outside my family to live healthier.
When I write pieces about health and how black people are failing in the area of health in groves (as are many other races, don’t misconstrue), I write because I care about our community, and I’ve seen health wreak havoc in my extended family.
This is personal.
Not only are black people suffering economically, but they are also with their health-and not just the physical. We are less likely to seek mental health assistance or go to the doctor for a simple visit.
Is their research available to back these claims up?
Plenty, which is why I include them in my articles.
But some claims don’t take that much research to back up…
You can see it all around you.
I’m Going To Write About Stuff You Don’t Like To See
It’s understandable to want to see ourselves in the most favorable light, but we have a lot of progress and catching up to do, and that’s a truth many of us don’t want to face.
And I choose to write about it, which is why I write pieces such as the following (see the list below), and I will continue to publish and write more “feather-ruffling” pieces in the future.
People OUTSIDE the black community do and have contributed to our suffering on uncountable levels, BUT HERE’S ANOTHER TRUTH, SO HAVE WE.
Less Popular Subjects in The Black Community
Some Black Women Will Have Their Whole Look Together, But Be Overweight
Break the stereotype: live a healthier lifestyle
Black Women Shouldn’t Have Problems With Black Men Dating Outside Their Race
The only time it’s a problem is when…
Do Black People Have A Gambling Problem?
Apparently, they domedium.
Dear Minorities: My Best Bosses Were White Women
Let’s Repair Our Mutual Support In Our Communities
Why do we perpetuate being overweight in our community?
Black Families Are At The Bottom Of The Financial Totem Pole
12 financial tips that can help African-Americans
A Black flight attendant gave the white male better service
Another myth African-Americans believe when it comes to 4c and the kinkiest hair types
Can We Please Stop Using The Phrase “GOOD Hair”?
Insulting our heritage and genetics is just plain ignorant
Black Women Are NOT Too Busy To Take Care Of Their Health: This Is A Lie
No more excuses
Like why?
Black People Still Treat Each Other Poorly Because They Prefer Whites
You probably don’t like the title of this article, but it’s true
Why don’t Black people support their own more often?
Thank you, Johnny Silvercloud – Editor And Chief of AfroSapiophile, for taking a shot at my writing and giving me a home to publish these pieces.
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