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But at what cost?
“I just wanted to be cared for.”
“I don’t want to work at all.”
“I want to be a housewife.”
“I hate working.”
“I’m not the working type.”
I’ve heard all of the excuses and desires of many women that want to be “cared for.” There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife or cared for. Many women find fulfillment in this, but here’s the problem. We need to have our own money and resources at all times because when we don’t, we are financially dependent on someone else, which can often put us at a disadvantage.
The Women Who Got Kicked Out
I know a grown woman who got kicked out of her boyfriend’s house twice. She had nowhere else to go except back to her mama’s house, with only two bedrooms, which meant she would have to share a room with her other grown a** sister. She had zero options because she didn’t have a job, no income, and no savings.
The Woman Who Needed Her Partner To Move In
Another woman invited her partner to move in with her because she couldn’t afford the rent on her own. Several years later, they are still not financially independent, making them both financially dependent on each other.
However, she has fewer options than her partner because she doesn’t bring in consistent income as her partner does. Could she live on her own without her partner? Not at the moment until she obtains stable income. But will this happen? Unsure since she doesn’t like to work. The cost of this situation could be the continuation of an unhealthy relationship, which opens several other cans of worms.
Her partner could dip out at any moment, leaving her at an extreme disadvantage, and that’s a scary feeling once you realize that’s a potential outcome.
At What Cost Do You Want To Be Cared For Financially?
Both of these situations could have been avoided had the women been financially independent. It’s always a healthier, liberating, and the wiser option to be able to afford to live on your own without the help of someone else in case things go south. It’s also intelligent to maintain a consistent income and savings so you’re prepared when things do go south.
Had the woman in the first example had income and savings, she could have easily applied to get a new place of her own. The same applies to the second woman, which would have eradicated the need for her to ask her partner to move in with her since she could no longer afford to pay the bills.
Relationships built on financial dependency do not have a firm foundation. It’s much healthier for individuals to be financially independent and then come together and build from there.
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