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Choose your confidants selectively
With time, people show you whether or not they deserve access to your life.
For the most part, the people who deserve access to your life will boil down to a select group of people; this is okay, and this is usually the best way for things to be.
Our personal lives don’t need to be shared with the world. Even when seeking help from others, we don’t have to seek help from everyone just because we are desperate.
Not everyone can handle our truths, and not everyone will cherish our truths, pain, and burdens.
It might hurt some people when they feel they can’t get access to your life, but you need to focus on doing whatever is best for you.
Spreading your life around with others might end up hurting more than helping your situation because sometimes the only thing people know how to do is tell someone else about the sh*t you’re going through, which is never any help at all.
Learn how to stand on your own two feet. But also learn who those select people are that can stand with you by your side – without adding any harm or stress to your situation.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.