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Show me your portfolio and spending habits over your car
We like to put on a show, feel good, look good, and present a pretty picture to ourselves and others, but often at the cost of our financial situations.
You can always tell when a person takes too much pride in their car because they ensure you notice it; they require external validation from others. You notice they value things more than character.
I’ve come across many individuals whose identity was tied up to their mode of transportation, but when you get to the more detailed aspects of their financial situation, their confidence dwindles.
Having a nice car does make you look great and will probably even make you feel great, but the most essential feeling is having money in the bank, staying on track with your financial goals, decreasing your debt load, and not going into debt to look good.
Finance Is A Hot Topic Amongst Couples
If you don’t know, at some point, you’ll find out that if you’re not on the same page about money, there will be conflict within your relationships.
When couples have similar habits, mindsets, and goals about money, there is more harmony.
A common cause of relationship separation is money.
Get on the same page early in a relationship instead of the backend.
It might look good to date someone with a nice car, clothes, house, and things, but the way their bank accounts and credit card statements look is more important.
Many people can get away with buying things they can’t afford for a long time without experiencing any detrimental consequences.
Debt is a creepy crawler; it doesn’t hurt you much in the beginning phases – only at the end when it becomes too difficult to manage.
Don’t Fall For The Nice Things
Avoid focusing on the exterior things when you’re just starting any kind of relationship. Focus on the interior to ensure a value alignment is shared between the two of you.
And when it comes to money, ask uncomfortable questions.
Don’t avoid talking about money because it’s a taboo question.
The sooner you can have an open conversation about money, the sooner you can ensure that you are a financial match, which is one of the most critical areas to match with concerning your partner.
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What You Prioritize You Will Attract
When you prioritize financial health and competence in yourself, you will attract these same qualities in your partner.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.