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Ignorance
To speak on someone else’s pain and history is OKAY IF you have invested the time and effort to develop a genuine empathy and real understanding for their culture and people. However, many people today speak on issues and events they have never experienced.
It is easy to believe that other people’s issues do not exist when you have been born into privilege or a background that is not disenfranchised. No matter how you slice or dice it, you can’t directly relate to specific individuals if you were not born into that group.
Ignorance has been the most consistent pandemic that has resulted in the demise of many people’s lives. Not only death has come about due to ignorance, but the lives of many have become unnecessarily painful, burdensome, and unlucky.
“Victimization”
Speaking about the pain and history one has experienced – on top of taking direct productive actions – is not being a victim; on the contrary, it helps bring about awareness and change for issues that still need resolution.
The last century and the current century have both fought for similar things. Those who think the present century doesn’t compare to the previous century is another way of pacifying the on-going pain of Black communities. We are still fighting for the same issues:
Unnecessary killing of Black people
Mass minority incarceration (the new slavery/free labor)
Subtle and direct racism in the workplace, education systems, and residential communities
Being targeted for merely being Black
Laws
Some laws can help bring about change within different communities, but laws do not remove racism. If laws in place for Black people were so powerful, we would be much farther than we are now.
Rights
Rights and laws have been created to maintain equality within all communities, yet so many still have trouble accessing these rights or effectively utilizing their rights.
We could see this happening in Georgia – not too long ago – during the multiple voting events that took place without integrity. Many people showed up to vote, yet machines were broken, and lines were unrealistically long – preventing many from having a voice in the democratic process.
Innocence
Yes, there are minority individuals that commit crimes – all races do – but does that make it okay to put minorities away in the prison systems longer than their white counterparts? Does this make it okay to shoot minorities in more significant numbers than their white counterparts? Does this make it okay to abuse minorities in larger quantities than their white counterparts? Does this make it alright never to allow minorities with a prison/jail record to have a voice (vote) again? Does this make it okay to seize minorities’ futures in significant numbers compared to others?
Affirmative Action:
We need affirmative action because generations upon generations have been DENIED the same opportunities as others. Yes, a white person may be turned down for a job today over a diverse candidate, but our community has been turned down too many times even to count. Being turned down for a job – as a white male – is something one can easily overcome. It takes a lot more strength to overcome being turned down for housing, loans, educational opportunities, voting, employment, medical access, etc., over an extended period of time.
Whose Situation Is Worse
This is not a race war. This is not White vs. Black. This is not my pain > your pain. This is not my country is worst off than your country.
The purpose of this whole conversation is to convey: When Black people create a movement, when Black people use their voices, when Black people try to bring awareness to the issues they face daily, other communities don’t need to come in and say things like:
1. What about the white kid killed by a Black person?
2. What about the white kid suffocated by cops that no one paid attention to?
3. What about the white people being shot in large numbers?
4. What about the fact that you all aren’t slaves anymore?
5. What about the fact that this century is nothing compared to the last century for Blacks?
6. What about the fact that you all have equal rights just like us?
7. What about the fact that laws have been passed to empower black people?
8. What about this, what about that, what about……. [fill in the blank]?
All I ask is that you put yourselves in the shoes of a Black woman or Black man. Oh right, this is impossible because you never will be Black. This goes for other minorities too. All minorities have unique issues. You will never hear me trivializing, nullifying, or speaking from “first-hand experience” on other minorities’ problems because I am Black and only Black.
Support Our Community
When Black people come together, we need everyone to support us, understand us, and not try to detract from the cause of our movement. If you do not understand the movement, I recommend spending some time educating yourselves on Black History.
But be careful before you speak about others’ experiences – even when you start to educate yourself on the issues. And just because you are a minority does not mean you have a complete understanding of the pain we go through as a Black race. Be careful before you bring up another community’s experience and make the moment about you. Be careful before you trivialize the pain that many Black people still face today. Because when you do this, you are only showing the world that Black Lives do not matter as much to you.
Closing Thoughts
Thank you for the conversation. I will always welcome a conversation with others to learn more about their POV and experiences and ensure I leave you with our POV.
Everyone is equal. No one is better than the other. Once we get to this point, we can work together as a global world to elevate everyone’s lives – together.
I encourage anyone and everyone not to nullify anyone’s pain or history.
Respectfully,
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