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It’s time to do you, accept you, and live out who you truly are
If they were in an open marriage, this would be okay, but that’s not what she wanted. She was a monogamist and deserved to experience that with someone. However, she tolerated his behavior – causing unnecessary stress, anxiety, and sadness.
Her biggest fear = she doesn’t want to be alone, which is why she stays.
At what point will she leave?
A guy told a woman she needed implants to satisfy him visually. Though she didn’t have the desire, she accommodated him.
A man told a woman not to cut her hair because he preferred it long.
A guy told a woman not to dress a certain way because he didn’t want people to look at her lustfully.
A man told a woman he didn’t want her to have any guy friends – even though he had female friends.
A man told a woman she could go wherever she wanted but followed her wherever she went, and she let him do it.
Another man told his partner to give up her career and take care of the kids full-time. She didn’t want to, but she did it.
These women are all perfect examples of how accommodating women can be and have been through the times. Many women have often been willing to give parts of themselves that don’t align with their dreams, values, and priorities.
I’m telling you today, stop accommodating people (men, women, or others) whose desires misalign with yours.
A guy told me I needed to stop traveling and working as much as I did so that I could spend more time with him.
What did I do?
I quietly walked away.
I kept traveling.
I kept working.
Bye mf.
One of the worst things you can do is sacrifice who you are for someone else. At some point, it will come to bite you. Don’t spend years of your life living someone else’s vision for your life.
You don’t have to wear lingerie if you don’t want to or feel like it.
You don’t have to wear makeup if you don’t want to or feel like it.
You don’t have to have sex if you don’t want to or feel like it.
You don’t have to cook for him all the time if you don’t want to or feel like it.
You don’t have to give up your career if that’s not your trajectory.
You don’t have to be more feminine if that’s never been who you are.
Always do you.
And if someone can’t love you for who you are, as you are, it’s time to walk tf away.
Don’t fear being alone. It’s better to be alone and be who you; are than be with someone who doesn’t love you as you are. And the sooner you get comfortable with yourself, the sooner others can do the same.
Healthy relationships always start with your relationship with yourself.
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