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Stop delaying your happiness for “faux comfort.”
Did I move? No.
The place I lived in then was okay, but I wasn’t delighted. I was so depressed that I didn’t even recognize it until I left because I felt much happier and alive – immediately after getting in the moving truck.
It took me three years to finally get up and move. I look back and wonder why I continued to take my sweet time to make a move that my soul craved.
Ultimately, I was paralyzed. I had become addicted to comfort and didn’t recognize what I needed because I was accepting the status quo.
Accepting the status quo is dangerous because it can keep you trapped in situations that rob you of time, experiences, opportunity, love, and fulfillment.
I am constantly asking myself these questions:
Am I happy?
Am I enjoying life?
Am I saying “yes” to the right things and people? Because if not, I need to change it immediately.
Life is not a guarantee. We could be gone at any moment – without a moment’s notice.
I reached my expiration date on living where I used to for three years too long. Though I’m grateful I finally moved when I did, I remind myself never to wait too long again.
The only way to know you’ve reached your expiration date for a job, relationship, where you live, or fill in the blank is to ask yourself the questions I listed above.
Another great question is: Are there any valid reasons for keeping me here in this situation?
Frequently, there are no good reasons why we are staying where we are, and any reasons we tell ourselves are excuses or denial.
I will use my friend as an example; they know exactly who I’m talking about, too. But I’ve been asking this person why they live where they do for the past year. There is nothing there for them.
It took one year for them to visit somewhere they knew they would enjoy living. Once they arrived, their energy shifted. It’s almost as if they transformed. There was hope in their eyes again. Happiness. Lightness. They even appeared more beautiful.
I told them they reached their expiration date a long time ago. But something in them had to push themselves to get out of their comfort zone.
Until you exit your comfort zone, you will stay in the same place – almost as if you’re dead.
The only way to live your best life – a meaningful and whole life – is to stay in tune with yourself.
What are you feeling?
Are your days dark or bright?
Do you feel like something is missing?
What does your body tell you it needs?
Who are you becoming versus who do you desire to be?
When you reach your expiration date in anything, listen. Don’t wait. The longer you wait, the longer you put your life on hold.
Why do that when you can be happy and satisfied now?
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