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People’s past puzzle pieces won’t fit the present puzzle you’re creating
I wanted to bring along everyone from my past with me – even though they no longer belonged in my life. Finally, I learned my lesson sooner than later. I realized that I no longer had use for many of my past relationships in my present life – not speaking down on them, but many people from my past have always been heading in different directions.
Finally, I realized that it’s okay to let go of them. I had to remember it’s okay to experience new people going in the same direction as me. I don’t need to force anyone to remain in my life – especially if there is no real purpose for them to be there.
Unsuccessfully, I also tried to make people into something they would never be okay with (e.g., looking back, many of the people I dated in the past I could only ever be friends with from my perspective, and that would not be okay with most of them; I had to accept that a friendship was not possible with these people, which hurt, but I reached a healing understanding of this truth); I tried to change the shape of people’s puzzle piece and make them fit into the new puzzle I’m creating. But I realized that my puzzle doesn’t have a place for them anymore, so I can rest and release the unhealthy tendency to hold onto people who need to go a different path.
What or Who Do You Need To Release?
Are you holding on to someone you need to let go of? Are you reaching out to people that no longer belong in your life? Are you reminiscing about a past that no longer fits into your present and future? I’ve struggled with all of these things, but I thankfully got it now, and it feels so empowering.
It’s okay for some people to only be in my life for a specific time period. This not only goes for relationships, but it also applies to habits, career, where you live, how you think, your goals, and your dreams.
As we move with time, circumstances and factors change. We need to honor the changes and recognize what and who fits best now in our lives. Then, we need to be okay with losing the things and people that no longer fit.
It’s okay. You can relax, heal, and let go easy. The universe always brings the right people and circumstances into our lives when we are ready and willing to accept them.
Stop trying to bring everyone along from your past; their puzzle pieces no longer fit into your puzzle.
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