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You either are one, or you know someone close to you that is one
Narcissism is a huge red flag. The best way to avoid dating a narcissist is to be aware of the signs as early as possible. Before you buckle down and get serious, get serious at spotting the red flags. People underestimate how dangerous and mentally draining being around narcissistic can be.
10 Ways To Spot A Narcissist
They enjoy telling you about themselves. And after long-winded conversations of chatting about themselves, they still don’t ask about you.
When you’re not giving them your undivided attention, they throw fits, which could be passive aggressive or direct inappropriate behavior.
An inferiority complex exists within them, but instead of appearing inferior, they present themselves as superior to the outside world.
They don’t enjoy being generous and hold onto negative experiences from previous relationships.
They tell you things about themselves when the situation doesn’t call for it. Instead of waiting to be asked, they tell, tell, tell.
They assume people are interested in them because they have an inflated sense of self-importance.
They’re not realistic about their expectations from other people.
Getting to know someone intimately is not important to them. They prefer when others take the time to get to know them.
They only make you feel special when they’re in a good mood.
They struggle to accept constructive criticism and don’t invest in personal development.
They need constant affirmation about themselves because they don’t affirm themselves.
Time For Reflection
Do any of these resonate with you? Maybe they do because you’re guilty of acting in some of these ways. No fret. You can switch the script by shifting the focus from yourself to others. When you prioritize giving and making others feel good about themselves, you will naturally receive the same in return. Be grateful for everything others can offer you, but also be grateful for people when they can’t offer you anything.
A vital characteristic of narcissists is that they always seek to gain something instead of seeking an opportunity to give something. Focus on giving, and you will always gain something of value in return – as long as you give from a place of genuine generosity and firm boundaries.
Remember, it’s okay to have a little narcissism. We should think we’re the sh*t, but we don’t have to make other people feel the same. They will if they will. They won’t if they won’t. It’s about balance. Give and take. When one happens more frequently than the other, an imbalance is created, which can instantly dismantle a healthy relationship.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.