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Sometimes you have to lose to win
Raise your hand because we all have lost something or someone during our lifetimes. It’s inevitable. Losses will always come. But here’s the thing: something positive can be found in every loss.
Everything CAN Work To Your Advantage
Whenever something happens in my life that appears inconvenient, hurtful, or catastrophic, I repeat the following statements:
All is well.
Everything is working as it should.
All is working out for my good in this situation.
100% of the time, as things settle down, everything ends up working out better than I could ever imagine. But you have to trust the process. If you stress out, complain, get depressed, and become overly emotional, you’ll miss out on the positive that comes from “tragedy.”
I think back to the times a relationship didn’t work out. Guess what happened? I met someone better. I remember all the times a job didn’t work out. Guess what happened? A better opportunity came along.
The key was not becoming paralyzed by negative emotions such as disappointment, hurt, or pain. It’s okay to feel these things, but never allow them to control your actions to make you less productive and proactive.
Losses Matter, But Not More Than How We Handle Them
The losses don’t matter as much as how we handle them.
Kevin Trudeau encourages the listeners of “Your Wish Is Your Command” to focus on attracting what they desire. Whatever you desire, trust that the universe is trying to bring it to you.
What you want, wants you.
But he warns people, don’t get too caught up with what they lose on their way to acquiring what they desire.
Often, people and things must fall out of our lives to invite new opportunities, the ideal opportunities we desire, into our lives.
Stop Focusing On Your Radar
My sister told me today that I have a micro vision, and she has a macro vision. It was a powerful statement. She reminded me of something similar that Kevin Trudeau said.
Most of us focus on what’s currently happening in our lives.
We think less of what could come into our lives and what we desire to occur in our lives because we’re so caught up in our current circumstances.
Learn not to focus on what’s visible on your radar but instead on what’s OFF your radar.
What Do You Desire?
Maybe you’re single, and you want to be in a relationship. Maybe you’re in a relationship but desire to manifest a more fulfilling relationship. Maybe all of your jobs for the past several years are making you depressed as f*ck, and you finally want to experience harmony and satisfaction in your job.
Whatever your desires are, write them down and focus on visualizing them throughout the day. Also, focus on feeling like these desires have already manifested.
Ultimately, the things we want will come to us, but we have to stay in the right mindset, and here’s how:
Learn not to get too attached to what’s present in your life.
Focus on feeling joyful and positive. Maintain a positive vibration.
Stay proactive on any ideas that come to mind. Keep experimenting.
Visualize your ideal life and outcomes consistently; this will attract them to you quicker.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.