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Utilize logic and take emotion out of specific reads
Some writers spell out which audiences they are referring to in their articles; others assume you will accurately determine their target.
I do a bit of both.
It is not uncommon for some to take my writing personally since some of my thoughts are radical, less mainstream, and not as trendy.
Example 1: Many Black Women Care More About Their Appearance Vs. Their Internal Health
Perfect examples of this include responses to the following article.
Indeed, many black women invest more in their appearance than their health.
Some Black Women Will Have Their Whole Look Together, But Be Overweight
Break the stereotype: live a healthier lifestyle
Black people continue to struggle with their health and finances, which makes sense since we have been oppressed for centuries.
However, it’s still not an excuse to make new decisions and do better.
Yes, plenty of others in different communities also struggle in these areas, but I was not referencing them.
A reaction to this article is that I’m bashing black women, but that would require me to bash myself and my loved ones since I’m a black woman and have many loved ones in the black community.
This piece was to bring awareness to an issue, not bash black women.
Example 2: Women Need to Maintain Financial Independence At All Costs
Some of my articles encourage women to maintain financial independence at all costs.
Some people have become offended because they believe this is entitled thought.
It’s important to remember that not everything written applies to everyone.
We must utilize logic (not emotion) to decipher what applies to specific groups accurately.
Many women in less developed parts of the world do not share similar freedoms as women in more developed parts of the world (e.g., America).
When you consider this, you decrease the opportunity to become offended because you then realize the article may not apply to specific groups of people.
However, I still like to make the case that people break through economic barriers and impossible circumstances daily.
The Intention Behind My Writing
Everything I write comes from my own experiences, others’ experiences, and research.
Whatever I publish is done to help someone attain the knowledge they didn’t have previously.
And not all of my writing is targeted at one specific group.
Why We Become Offended
Every time I read something and feel a surge of negative emotions, I always ask myself:
Why do I feel this way – is it because there is truth in the article, or is it genuinely offensive? Often it’s the first answer.
But facing the truth is not the easiest thing to do, which is why many people continue to get offended by others’ writing.
Key Message: Instead of getting offended by others’ writing, approach it with an objective mind and try to see if there is any truth involved.
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