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What you are asking for from your partner, you must give yourself
Ultimately, they were threatened by my presence, accomplishments, physical fitness, and success. It didn’t take me too long to realize this, but I decided I would give the person a dose of patience, unconditional love, and effort.
Was I perfect in the situation? Nope, but I had standards.
After repeatedly complaining and having the same discussion, I recognized that the person I was trying to reach was myself. It wasn’t the other person.
They had their own issues that I could never fix. They would need to gain awareness, learn how to love themselves, and become healthier, which had nothing to do with me.
Until I recognized that I deserved better, I would stick around and try to change the other person. But all I really needed to do was change myself, recognize my value, love myself unconditionally, and realize I deserve everything I desired to manifest.
Every time I pleaded with the other person asking if they could show me respect, love, and consideration, I was talking to myself. Because if I loved, respected, and showed myself consideration, I would have walked away from the short-term situation a lot earlier and would not have put up with all of the bullsh*t I signed up for.
Relationships Are A Reflection Of You
What you see in your partner is what you see in yourself.
My partner was insecure about their body, which I allowed to affect me. I didn’t feel comfortable wearing what I usually wear around the person because of my high fitness level. So, I became insecure about how fit I was since their body was significantly different than my own and overweight.
I complained about them giving only when it’s convenient for them. I then realized I was doing the same. Not to the level of them, but I was unwilling to give them certain things. It wasn’t necessarily a bad thing. I later realized it was a form of self-preservation and protection because my soul knew they weren’t the one for me.
If you feel you are unable to give wholeheartedly, then observe why you feel that way. What is your soul trying to tell you? Why do you not feel safe to give with your whole heart? It is likely your intuition trying to reveal something to you.
Love should be easy. I repeat, it should be easy. If it’s hard, it’s not worth it. I’m not saying there will not be difficult times, but pure and unconditional love should be filled with easier times.
If you’re trying to change too many things in your partner, it shows that you have some work to do because you’re forcing yourself to be with someone who is incompatible but can’t love you properly.
When you love yourself properly, you only attract those who will do the same, and you will say goodbye to those who don’t easily harmonize with your human being.
Be thankful for every relationship because it only helps you learn more about what you need to work on and improve in your life. xo
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