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Until you see yourself as valuable, you don’t give others a reason to either
You can do better.
And so she did.
She recently was able to thank her uncle for those powerful words that caused a positively transformative shift in her life at a young age.
Recently I had a negative experience with a company (don’t we all have these from time to time), and when they offered the first solution, I asked:
“Can you do better than that?”
I genuinely felt there was more they could do to resolve my issue, and I continued to ask them as they offered solutions:
“Can you do better than that – especially considering the circumstances?”
At one point, I challenged them and told them they could do better than what they were offering, and they finally did.
If you don’t challenge others to treat you better, respect you, resolve issues that negatively impact you, and listen to your boundaries, you will continue experiencing the doormat lifestyle.
What is the doormat lifestyle?
Your desires, wants, needs, boundaries, truths, and preferences are consistently ignored because you never stand up for yourself.
This is a perfect example of low self-image.
When you don’t value yourself, you don’t give people much reason to value you either.
You always set the tone for the way most people treat you.
Set the tone right today.
It’s easy to accept what you’re given and to be grateful for it. I have fallen into this trap many times. But there are times when there is a difference between being grateful and simply having low self-image.
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