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There’s a big difference
People tend to show off how much they have – even for people they barely know or care about. It’s an ego thing.
Is My Dating Partner Broke?
If your partner is broke or a financial mismatch, here are a few questions to consider to help you figure it out sooner than later…
13 Questions To Verify If Your Partner Is A Financial Match
If you like to go out consistently, are they able to keep up?
If you like to travel and desire to travel with them, can they afford to visit the places on your itinerary?
If you like things being paid for, are they comfortable paying for your stuff, or are they more of a dutch person?
Do they require a Groupon for every activity that you two do together?
Do they always need a ride from you or get picked up?
Do they enjoy being generous with others, not only those close to them?
Are they at least standard tippers, or do they always lowball their service person?
Do they ever talk about investing? Do they have any investments?
What are their ideas on financial freedom and retirement?
Do their cards decline a little too frequently?
Do they have more than one income source?
Do they seem to be struggling to manage their bills?
Do they have to look at their bank account before making a purchase?
After answering these questions, you should have a clearer idea of whether or not your dating partner is broke and if they’re a financial match or mismatch.
Is My Dating Partner Cheap?
On the other hand, you might have a special case if they have all of their financial ducks in a row. Nina Hanson recently shared a dating experience that entailed dating someone that was not broke but cheap:
I dated a guy who said he was “Just living on his monthly social security check”. But when I started seeing new motorbikes, or him offering to pay for expensive meals for his kids, when our last meal out was at the grocery store salad bar, I realized that he had plenty of money – just not for me.
I can imagine it’s not the best feeling in the world to find out that your date doesn’t want to spend money on you; I’ve been there before. But it’s better to realize this truth early on than later.
If your date is cheap af, ask yourself if you are okay with that or if you prefer to date someone that will spend some money on you.
The choice is up to you.
For Minimalists
Not everyone desires to have a partner that financially invests in them. One of my dear friends lives with their partner in a modest home, and they celebrate birthdays with a simple dinner and a love letter.
If being cheap doesn’t bother you, at least ensure your partner is willing to invest in you in other areas and makes sound financial decisions with their money if you decide to partner up.
This content is for informational purposes only — not professional advice. Consult a qualified professional before making any major decisions.